Can we just take a moment to talk about “FAMILIARITY”? I mean, it’s about time we did, isn’t it?
I am of the opinion that Familiarity is a hindrance to a lot of people’s growth and progress in life whether spiritually or otherwise and the fact that no one addresses it or talks about it’s dangers make it even worse because some persons might honestly be ignorant about their actions or inactions.
Now, What is Familiarity? The dictionary defines it as “close acquaintance with or knowledge of something or someone” or “the quality of being well known from long or close association“.
In the Nigerian Indigenous Creole(Pidgin English), it’s called….“See Finish”.
I’m not sure how the name came about but it sounds rather ironic and sarcastic to me simply because of my strong belief that “Familiarity blinds you!” What exactly does a blind person see finish?😏😒
Familiarity is what blinds you from seeing that Mr Adeoye is not just your boss at the office but the man God has placed you under to learn from him and be mentored by him.
Familiarity is what blinds you from seeing Segun as your husband, you believe he is just that guy in church that you are fond of.
Familiarity is what blinds you from seeing that Nneka is not just your daughter but a child of destiny that would restore the lost glory of your family.
Oh, Familiarity will not let you see that Kayode is not only your roommate but a God-ordained prophet.
I could go on and on. A lot of times, the blessings we are expecting from God are already in our lives in form of people, our parents, our children, our neighbours, friends, church members, classmates, colleagues at the office etc…but familiarity blinds us from recognizing them.
Familiarity shuts not just our eyes from recognizing but also shuts our hearts from believing in them hence making important things elude us..
Familiarity is why you think Mr Adeoye’s own sef is too much. Are you the only one in that office? Why does he like to assign the seemingly most difficult task to you?
It’s the same reason why you think Segun has gone nuts for daring to step outside the friend zone and ask you to marry him.
It is the reason you don’t understand why Nneka seems different from your other children. Something must be wrong with her, you keep thinking…
Familiarity is what makes you discard words of counsel from your roomate Kayode as mere bants because you think….”wetin Kay know sef”
Don’t let closeness or proximity make you miss blessings from God. Some friends are not just ordinary friends….they were placed strategically in your life for a reason!
Don’t be like the Nazarenes who refused to believe in Jesus even with all the great and mighty things he did, their mindset remained……
“Isn’t this Joseph’s son, the carpenter?”
My heart literally bleeds when I see people still have this mindset today, the devil shut their eyes and hearts to the gifts and callings of God in a person’s life because…… “shebi na Nnamdi wey I don know tey tey, me and am go way back na, na we two go the same secondary school for umuahia that year, this same Nnamdi wey no sabi anything, na we dey help am write exam that year, na him dem con dey tell me say he don turn pastor now….wetin Nnamdi wan preach to me……..and yen yen yen”…
Stop defining people by their history, what you think you know of them. Allow your eyes/heart of understanding be flooded with light! Appreciate the gifts of God in form of persons He has placed in your life!
Refuse to be blinded by “See Finish” mentality! God bless you!